You know those moments where you’re clinging to something with everything you’ve got — a relationship, a job, a dream — but it just keeps slipping through your fingers no matter how hard you try? I’ve been there too. Most of us have.
There was a time I tried to salvage a relationship that was clearly falling apart. I thought if I just gave more, compromised more, loved harder, it would magically all work out. I thought that if I could mould myself into what the other person needed, we’d make it.
But the truth is, no amount of giving could hold it together — and when it finally ended, I didn’t just grieve the relationship. I grieved the part of me that had worked so tirelessly for something that wasn’t meant to stay.
Looking back now, it’s clear: what’s truly meant for you won’t require you to shrink yourself. It won’t demand that you chase or plead or prove your worth over and over again.
The right friends will still be there, even when life gets chaotic. The right career won’t leave you questioning your value every day. And the right partner? They’ll make you feel seen, chosen, and safe — not like you’re constantly trying to earn your place in their life.
Now, that doesn’t mean life’s going to be smooth sailing all the time. Things worth having often require effort. But there’s a difference between healthy effort and losing yourself trying to hold something together.
I remember another time when I set my heart on a particular job. I pictured the title, the desk, the sense of achievement. When I didn’t get it, I felt gutted — like I’d missed my one big break. I even questioned if I was good enough.
But a few months later, out of the blue, I got offered a role I hadn’t even considered — and it ended up being a better fit than anything I could’ve imagined. One I didn’t have to squeeze myself into.
In hindsight, that initial “no” was the universe giving me a quiet nudge — not punishing me, but redirecting me.
So if you’re feeling lost or left behind right now — if someone has walked out, if an opportunity didn’t work out, if you’re wondering why it hasn’t happened for you yet — take a deep breath.
You’re not being punished. You’re being positioned.
What’s meant for you will find its way to you — not through desperation, but through alignment. It may not come wrapped in the timing or packaging you expected, but it will arrive when you’re truly ready for it.
You haven’t missed the boat. You’re not falling behind.
You’re right on time. Keep going.